10 Ways To Snap Out Of Apathy
Apathy is actually defined as the absence of emotion.
It’s white noise. Dead air. You feel like a chunk of flavorless tofu. Not happy. Not sad. Not angry. And certainly not passionate.
You’ve probably heard people say they knew they were out of love when they no longer got angry. The relationship had flat-lined, love had dissappeared, and it wasn’t worth the effort of anger anymore.
But what if life begins to feel that way?
What if everything you thought would ring your bell stares back at you with dead shark eyes?
What if all of those goals and habits you were going to achieve start to dissolve in importance and float away in the sea of your apathy?
Apathy is not an emotion to disregard. If you feel apathetic and have one ounce of up-and-at-em left in your antediluvian brain (that small piece that still compels you to stand staring blankly into the fridge looking for food) then use it to snap out of apathy.
Apathy is often the precursor to a full-blown depression. As life starts to feel boring and empty, your psyche might decide to jazz things up a bit by sending you spiraling into a dark hole. If you don’t know the signs of depression, get familiar with them and get treatment if you notice them.
Before depression really slams you, you may find your feet sinking in the quicksand of apathy. Apathy comes on slowly. You progressively feel less and less engaged and excited about life until one morning you think,”If I have to get up and do this same thing again today I’m going to chew my foot off.” A one-footed pessimist is not an attractive thing.
Here are some signs you might be sinking into a state of apathy:
- Your regular interests and hobbies don’t feel interesting or fun anymore;
- You feel very unmotivated at work and your work performance starts to slip;
- Every time you think of acting on a goal or possible interest, you quickly lose steam;
- You allow yourself to spend a lot of time in front of the TV, surfing the net, shopping, or playing video games;
- You feel frustrated or embarrassed being around friends who have something interesting going on in their lives or you avoid them altogether;
- You fill your life with mindless tasks and busy work to keep from having to figure out what you really want in life;
- You’re hearing comments from family and friends trying to “help you” get motivated;
- You are reading lots of self-help books without applying any of the help;
- You’re eating too much and exercising too little.
Apathy also fosters secondary emotions like shame, guilt, self-loathing, and low self-esteem. And that creates the slippery slide toward depression. So while you still have your wits about you, focus your remaining energy like a laser on snapping out of apathy.
Here are some suggestions.
1. Start with perspective
2. Define the cause
3. Change the things you can
4. Create small disturbances
5. Create a mood
6. List past joys
7. Find the low-hanging fruit
8. Pick one thing
9. Break it down
10. Learn about habits
Making change is basically creating a series of new habits. Forming habits involves a special skill set that is easy but important to understand. Many people fail at creating habits because they don’t understand the simple method for making habits stick. Learn the method and you will have the tools to snap out of apathy.